Epidurals Birth trauma Bonding (attachment)
EPIDURAL DURING LABOR AND THE ONSET OF BAD MOTHER-CHILD RELATIONSHIPS
by Jeanice Barcelo
Did you know that when a mother chooses to have an epidural
during labor, she is signing up to have her own pain removed, BUT TO CAUSE HER
BABY MORE PAIN!!!
It's true. Please watch this short video so that you can understand why -- and also understand part of what is at the root of bad mother-child relationships. How can any child forgive their mother for disregarding its welfare?
Epidural Release Form
"I understand that the pain from labor causes my brain to release beta-endorphins. These are natural painkillers which can be likened to morphine or heroin. These opiates are so powerful that they can cause women to have an out-of-this-world or high feelings in between contractions and they also have been known to cause euphoria during and after birth… WHEN I RECEIVE AN EPIDURAL, I UNDERSTAND THAT MY BABY WILL FEEL THE PAIN OF LABOR MORE INTENSELY BECAUSE MY BODY WILL STOP PRODUCING AND CIRCULATING THE HORMONES MENTIONED ABOVE. I CHOOSE THAT MY OWN PAIN BE REMOVED AND THAT MY BABY FEELS THE PAIN OF LABOR MORE INTENSELY..."
Also, please check out this quote from the Ringing Cedars book entitled "Rites of Love," pp. 160-162
The appearance of pain at the moment of birth is a sign of an erroneous psychological approach to the birth process on the part of the parents. Many, many animals give birth to their offspring in natural surroundings and none of them perish or experience suffering. Nor did the Creator come up with any thought of pain for His beloved creation, Man. Just as loving parents would never conjure up the thought of pain for their children. As she fulfills her highest purpose - that of co-creating LIFE -- the woman who has carried the Divine child within herself receives a reward ordained by the Creator. This reward is the feeling of bliss and the chain of joyful ecstasies during labor, but certainly not pain. Quite to the contrary, the process of giving birth... should be a joyful and pleasant one.
It is Man himself, deceived by the occult sciences and suggestions from the dark side, who by his own intrusion has made childbirth painful for the mother and a fatal shock for the baby... [The baby] gets born, but it does not understand why it is being so rudely torn out of is pleasant and perfect Space and why its mother suffers and experiences pain.
THE MOTHER’S PAIN CAUSES UNTOLD MOURNING ON THE PART OF THE CHILD…
ANESTHETICS CAN LESSEN THE MOTHER’S PHYSICAL PAIN… BUT THEY INCREASE THE MENTAL PAIN FOR THE INFANT, SINCE ANESTHETICS CUT HIM OFF FROM CONTACT WITH HIS MOTHER.
Such a state instills in him fear and a lack of self-confidence, which continue even into adulthood, even into his most advanced years...
Few women in today's world realize that they do not have to frighten their baby - on the contrary, they can caress their child during labor, talk with it, express their thoughts to it, invite it to be born into the world. And this need not be accompanied by any sensation of stress or pain.
After hearing the call of his mother and father, the child will perceive the labor contractions as a caress - an invitation to make his appearance of his own free will, to explore a world that is brand new to him. TO BE BORN OF HIS OWN FREE WILL - that is an indication of great and extraordinary significance. ALL THE INFORMATION IMPARTED BY GOD DURING A BIRTH LIKE THIS WILL BE PRESERVED IN HIM.
When the woman experiences fear over her labor, this fear is felt by the child in the womb. When the woman experiences pain from her labor trouble and has thoughts only for herself, the child in the womb experiences DOUBLE the amount of pain. He feels abandoned, and, above all, helpless and defenseless. Such feelings are harmful and they are lasting.
In this kind of birth, the child feels for the first time in his life that he is not the master of the Universe, but a worthless nonentity, subject to some kind of external forces.
HIS BODY IS BORN, BUT THE SPIRIT OF MASTERY AND OF A KIND CREATOR IS NOT BORN IN HIM. Such a Man will not become the likeness of the divine. A mere slave of some other entity he will remain, and he will try his whole lifetime to free himself from slavery, but in vain.
[Cesarean birth] is hardly the birth of a Man -- it is more like a routine operation. Who is thereby causing the Man to emerge into the world -- the mother, who has not given birth to the child, or the surgeon, who has torn the fetus out of the mother's body? The infant, who has not yet appeared in the world, suddenly loses contact with his mother and, consequently, with the whole order of the grand Creation. Then he is forcibly torn from the womb? What for? Whereto? And why so rudely? And why is he not in charge of anything himself? The whole world crashes before him!
People believe a child is born into the world, while he, at the moment of birth, feels himself forlorn. AND WHILE IT SEEMS AS THOUGH THIS INFANT MAN HAS THRIVED, WHAT HAS REMAINED ALIVE, IN FACT, IS ONLY THE FLESH. He will try to use what paltry remains he can reclaim of his spiritual substance to search for his Divine self throughout this life. And for this only his father and mother are to blame.