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The Dying Art of Femininity

May 27, 2011

By Henry Makow, Ph.D. (originally posted in Oct. 2005, updated) http://www.henrymakow.com/001189.html

"Femininity is a gentle tender quality found in a woman's appearance, manner and nature. A feminine woman gives the impression of softness and delicateness. She has a spirit of sweet submission, and a dependency upon men for their care and protection. Nothing about her appears masculine, no male aggressiveness, competence, efficiency, fearlessness, strength, or the ability to kill her own snakes." (247)

Helen Andelin's Fascinating Womanhood (1963) is subversive to the New World Order because it upholds the inherent difference between the sexes and the basic laws governing marriage.

Such a book would never be published today. It is only available because it appeared 48 years ago and sold more than 2 million copies.

If you have any doubt about your sexual identity, I recommend Fascinating Womanhood. It is pertinent for men as well as women. I also recommend Andelin's Fascinating Girl for single women and her husband's Man of Steel and Velvet for men.

I'm not saying you should treat this model as gospel or that it's for everyone. For eg. Andelin implies women should reward men with sex. That seems dated and I told her so.My comment was met with a frosty silence!

Nevertheless, the book represents a timeless heterosexual paradigm that works. Every couple is different. Choose what is relevant to you and chuck the rest.

Femininity and masculinity are an art like playing the piano. They must be learned. We have to know the basics before we can improvise.

People are very malleable. Society is the target of a long-term hate campaign designed to degrade and discredit heterosexuality. Domestic violence and rape are highlighted to make women fear men, reject femininity and become masculine. The destruction of the family has always been the goal of the financial elite in order to control people. (See "The Illuminati Program") I will elaborate below.


Andelin, who died in 2009, says a woman's happiness depends on her husband's lifelong devotion and love. This book teaches women how to be attractive to men, how to be feminine.

Andelin writes that women don't have to be beautiful to be feminine. "Acquire a feminine manner by accentuating the differences between yourself and men, not the similarities. Since the masculine manner is strong firm and heavy, yours should be gentle, delicate and light. Apply this in the way you walk, talk, use your hands and carry yourself." (256)

I can still remember how a girl I knew closed a kitchen cupboard with a motion of her hips. This happened 41 years ago when I was 20!

When Andelin writes that a feminine woman is never "crude, vulgar, harsh, overbearing or critical," it is apparent that the fair sex is being deliberately degraded and neutered by the media. "All your conversation should reflect tenderness, patience, forgiveness, tolerance and love."

A wife's first priority is her husband and then her children. Thus a single woman will consecrate herself for her future husband and children as much as possible. She will not be promiscuous.

Wives tend to put career, friends, parents, success and appearance before their husbands. "If you are a successful career woman, keep your priorities straight," Andelin writes. "Let your husband know by words and actions that he is number one." (95)

The woman's primary role is to be wife, mother and homemaker. The man's role is to be guide, protector and provider. This doesn't mean women can't have careers or men can't cook or change a diaper.

A man needs to feel that he is needed, and that he excels his woman in his role. If she becomes independent, he may question his purpose and his feelings for her "since his romantic feelings partly arise from her need to be protected, sheltered and cared for." (102)

A woman should accept her husband at face-value and not try to change him. His pride and freedom are inviolable. She should focus on his good qualities and he will improve naturally in response to her.

Reactions to Andelin are either very positive or very negative. One minister wrote on Amazon:" I have given approximately 250 copies of this book to women I have counseled in the past 5 years. In this period of time, I have yet to see ANY of them NOT improve their marriage by working on what they bring to the marriage, as an individual and to the whole."

Many women find the book outdated and laughable. One contentious point is that Andelin advises wives to adopt a childlike petulance when upset with their husband. A lot of women find this demeaning. But in practice, most men will respond positively when their authority is not directly challenged.

Andelin may be outdated at times but she has the basic principles right; it's up to us to adapt them.

Beautiful women are a dime a dozen but feminine women are rare. The world suffers the loss of feminine spiritual qualities: trust, modesty, grace, innocence, serenity, tenderness, patience and love. This is behind the male obsession with pornographic sex. Men unconsciously seek femininity and love to balance them. The restless masculine spirit seeks a calm harbor.


Men and women are the victims of a cruel hoax. They are taught that sexual differences are "socially conditioned." Ironically this lie is the actual "social conditioning". Sexual differences are inborn. For example, males have ten times the level of testosterone as women, and this determines their willingness to take risks, etc. Sex roles express natural differences and form the spice of life.

Feminism's Marxist principles of "equality" do not apply to loving heterosexual relationships and are in fact toxic. As I often say, heterosexual marriage is based on the exchange of female worldly power for male love. Equal power neuters both sexes.

Our leaders are accomplices to this monstrous hoax. Behind them are the private central bankers who print our currency in the form of a debt to them. They need a world government so no country can default on it. They need a dictatorship so the people cannot end this scam. They need to stunt our natural development by fostering gender confusion so we can be controlled.

The elitists present women's liberation as if a cherished housewife were the same as a concentration camp inmate. They present this vicious psychological assault as "progress," when in fact it is subversion on a grand scale.

Ladies, where do you think feminism came from? It was organized by the US Communist Party, the CIA and the elite media, all instruments of the central bankers. It is funded by the Rockefeller Foundation.

This weekend yet another movie opens about a woman who is a violent killer. "Domino" is the story of a female bounty hunter. The real-life inspiration for this story Domino Harvey died recently of a drug overdose or murder. No wonder young women are confused! Where do they see wives and mothers presented in a positive light? Women are always harried, arguing with men and running off to work.

I get email from feminists who say my articles are "hurtful." It's eerie how they all use that word and repeat the party line. I think it's "hurtful" that the super rich want to take the place of God and nature and enslave humanity. But these feminists don't get it. They don't get "A"'s for connecting feminism with the Rockefellers, Sept. 11 and Iraq, i.e. NWO Central Banker Dictatorship.

Feminism is designed to make women feel unworthy for devoting their lives to the people they love. It forces them out of the house where their employers can control them. It forces infants into joyless day cares subject to conditioning and who-knows-what-else .

I would never stand between anyone and their idea of fulfillment. But ladies, don't be so gullible! You're being defrauded of a lifetime of love. Have your careers later but don't forfeit your femininity and your chance to have a family.



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Henry Makow is the author of A Long Way to go for a Date. He received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto. He welcomes your feedback and ideas at henry@savethemales.ca.

Comments for "The Dying Art of Femininity"

Anne Louise said (May 29, 2011):

Women were raised and educated to suppress their feelings. They obviously have anger, aggressive behavior, rage and all humans feeling. It is just that they were not allowed by the society as a whole to express their feelings.

This is not Human, what you call femininity is actually a prison . No wonder why females are happier when they become widow, no wonder why they are happier when they get their salaries to pay for whatever they like.

Your ideal female behavior means man has the right to tell women what to wear, how to have their hairs cut, who to talk to....this a PRISON and women are not happy with this model. This is good for men that keep giving orders. Now it is time for you to receive order and obviously now you are not happy just as the women were not happy as well.

No one has to give order in a marriage. It must be a respectful relationship where both men and women keep their main interests and characteristics while they share each others company till they die. There should not be space or room to forbid things in a marriage unless it is a disrespectful behaviour.

Get a life! I am glad that things have changed and no matter if it is by Illuminatis or whatever group.

I am just happy that your views has not an echo anymore in our world.

Christine said (May 28, 2011):

Thanks for this article. You are right that femininity is a dying art, as is motherhood. Particularly since abortion is the number one cause of death now. How can a woman who kills her own child be feminine? Or ever hope to recover it once she has lost it?

Debra said (May 28, 2011):

A point of this article if I understand this correctly is feminism was created by The Illuminati. Both sexes fell prey to controlled-purposeful conditioning, and are suffering the results of it.

People like "hip priestess", for example, turning to witchcraft (I'm going by that name she chose), making it harder for her to see out of
purposeful conditioning, thinking she is free.

The Illuminati planned conditioning is at the end-stages as many articles here demonstrate.

Men are clearly superior. This is obvious, if viewed objectively without emotion, and men are
also kinder, more compassionate, can accomplish more, and simply are superior to women.

It is amazing how easily they've pulled the wool over our eyes, having people debate an issue
that is non-arguable and clearly is factual. Abuse is a separate issue not aided by feminism, in fact made worse by it.

I have absolutely no clue what it is like to be a man, because I'm not one. It doesn't look easy, and so if I can help in any way then I'll
do so, and hope I'll be permitted to continue.

Bob said (May 28, 2011):

It doesn't help human relationships that they are occurring in a contrived and warped economic, cultural and political context
that has been designed by the international financial power. How does careerism fit with loving one's neighbour? How is
allowing the 'educational' system primarily to equip one's child for 'employment' not constitute subversion of that child's sense
of his or her real place and worth in Creation? How is acceptance of the pursuit and abuse of temporal power not a total rejection of
the essence of the example set for us by Jesus? Considering the witches' brew of deception and distortion that the Large-scale
Planners have us swimming in, which is psychological poison, the disappearance of love and beauty, of the sort that inspire one
to say "Yes, I want that", from marriages and families should hardly come as a surprise. The institutions of society are at war with

Judy said (May 28, 2011):

Everyone seems to be familiar with the Biblical injunction for wives, but few mention the injunction for husbands:

"Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church, and delivered Himself up for it....
so also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies... He that loveth his wife, loveth himself." Ephesians 5: 25 -29

If men loved women in this manner, I don't think there would be too many obedience or submission issues. Further, if men actually cherished their women as they promise to do in the marriage vow, I doubt there would be many problems. It seems like the men who make the biggest issue out of the submission of women are the least likely to cherish or love them. Masculinity does not simply apply to certain traits like physical strength, agility, aggression, prowess, dominance, logic, abstract reasoning or aptitudes for certain kinds of work. Real masculine men are loving of women. They show real consideration and appreciation for the whole person that they are with, and that includes the traits that might at times veer into typically masculine territory. They are not threatened if their wife shows a greater aptitude for math or science. They are happy when she suggests solutions to problems that they might not have considered, or when she is better at certain sports than they are.

Since they truly cherish their woman as a part of themselves, everything that she accomplishes, whether typically masculine or feminine, brings them pleasure, as it reflects well on both of them. Yet, the masculine man remains aware that women do have certain physical limitations relative to themselves. And they are considerate of that. They don't expect their wives to carry or move heavy things, perform physical tasks while they rest, fetch and carry things for them, have sole responsibility for the routine tasks of child care, or wait on them like their wives are their servants. This would not be loving your wife as you love yourself. This would be putting yourself above your wife.

If you are going to talk about the feminine ideal, it is only fair to mention that the concept of masculinity is frequently offered as an excuse for brutishness, and implies no responsibilities toward women.

These discussions need to include suggestions for the improvement of the behavior of people in general, not just women.

Mary said (May 28, 2011):

After reading a book by Michael Baisden decrying the tendency of women to ignore good guys and go for the ones that treat them like crap, I started looking for books, lectures etc about true women and men.

I soon realized that it was necessary to know and understand the essence of the sexes, and Theun Mares books Unveil the Mysteries of the Female and The Quest for Maleness helped me tremendously.

As an Eastern Christian, really studying about the Most Holy and Ever Virgin Mary and her son and Lord Jesus Christ took me further along the path and actually coincided with much of Mares books, even though Mares follows the Toltec Warrior path. (There's much wisdom in tribal teachings, even for monotheists. Eastern Christian understanding of the Most Holy Virgin differs slightly, or rather emphasizes different aspects from the traditional Western Christian view.)

I also paid close attention to relationship movies, and learned a thing or too there too. One of the most interesting movies was Kingdom Come with L.L. Cool J and Vivica Fox playing husband and wife. Vivica Fox is interesting because she has such a masculine air about her that it's reported that in her personal life she has a very hard time attracting and keeping men.

Her movie roles almost always portray her as the know it all, always in control woman, so she never has any chemistry with her costars and is never feminine even when wearing dresses, looking cute, etc. Always unconvincing as a woman.

But in Kingdom Come, for the first time, she's paired with a very masculine man (balances her masculinity out perfectly) and in this role she is the wife who strives to serve his family during a difficult time, she's soft, gentle, vulnerable (the men in the movie are vulnerable too, but in a manly manner, not with dainty handkerchiefs and sighs) and sweet. Her character is totally believable and you still see Vivica there too. It dawned on me watching this that this was Andelin, Theun and Christian teachings about men and women in action.

This also solved the puzzle of how more masculine, tomboyish women can reveal their femininity; by serving their husbands.
I encourage you and everyone to check out the books and movie listed. I'd be interested in their comments.

hip priestess said (May 28, 2011):

Maybe we should go back to the dark ages, likeIndia and China, where there are honor killings of women in India, and the murder, abortion and alienation of female babies in China.

In China they bind the feet of females so they can be tiny and 'feminine'

In India the pressure to have a first born male child has taken hold and 7 million female babies
were aborted, because women want their men to 'protect' them, and women must serve men.

And when I'm married to a man that needs to 'protect' me, I will be a slave to him and kneel down
and do everything he wants of me so that I can bring forth a son just like him."

This is why the patriarchal order needs to die off the face of the earth.

So you can keep your man made feminine aspects. I'm not putting make up on, and I bow before
no man, and I need no man to protect me. Now I need to get my drill and go out and hang
a garage door.

CB said (May 28, 2011):

Just by knowing my "socially engineered" girlfriends it is hard to make them realize that they are manipulated by the masonic mass media and that they they believe a lie which is shaped with every movie or sitcom they watch.

The "girl power" mentality works against them. Thoughts and perceptions turn into actions.The only way I can think of persuading them is to model this beautiful femininity myself and to encourage them to wear beautiful dresses, to look and act more feminine, speak softly and intervene every time the conversation turns to male bashing. There is something psychological to looking the part first and acting the part as a result, so I encourage all the women reading this article to start a feminine "dress revolution" this summer :)

It is the preaching by action as opposed to just the speech itself. You mentioned in your article that men have been "socially re-engineered" as well especially by the porn industry and by the way feminists treat them, yet they still recognize femininity when they see it.